Recently, I was asked if I would ever consider being a stepmother. My opinion was specifically warranted for one reason. To know me is to know I absolutely LOVE my step-dad who has been married to my mother for 22 years. So much so, it feels weird saying step. I have a strained relationship with my biological father. Be clear he is not the worst father buttt he did what he thought was best at the time. I have two older brothers from my father’s previous marriages. So that means my mom was a step mother at some point.
With all that being said children aren’t a deal breaker for me. I personally believe this would make me a hypocrite. I’ve dated men with and without. BUT! (There is always a but) I would be lying if I didn’t admit I do prefer to date men with no children.
At the age of 27, I believe it’s a realistic preference. I am personally in a selfish period in my life blame Venus being in retrograde. By selfish I mean with time, energy and emotions.
The truth is there is no easy answer to this and you must do what’s best for you. Everyone is different but I believe boundaries and expectations should be talked about sooner than later. Here are some things to consider if you are single, dating or seriously considering getting into a relationship.
*Healthy relationships take commitment & maturity regardless of circumstances*
Advice when approaching this topic…
- Before you enter any situation identify what your non-negotiables are.
- Be honest sooner than later.
- Be open.
- Don’t apologize for what’s in your heart.